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Robin George
7/24/2024
And they took away
more than just culture, Stewart said – “They disposed of everything. Family.
Teachings. Land. Inheritance.”
GUELPH
– Family and Children’s Services of Guelph and Wellington County (FCSGW) has
recognized three Indigenous women for their work in child welfare advocacy.
Tauni
Sheldon, Donna Dubie and Wendy Stewart were presented with FCSGW’s Award of
Merit on June 20.
“The
invaluable contributions of these Indigenous leaders and unwavering dedication
to their communities serves as an inspiration to us all,” FCSGW officials
state.
“This is the first time in local
history Indigenous providers have been recognized for our child welfare
advocacy,” Stewart said.
Sheldon,
Dubie and Stewart advocate for Indigenous children involved with child welfare
societies across Ontario. They are not agents of family and children’s services
but independent providers who offer culturally appropriate support to
Indigenous families.
Inuit
advocacy
Sheldon
lives in Ospringe and is Inuk from Nunavut and Northern Quebec, a Sixties Scoop
survivor, and a cultural advisor with Kamatsiarniq.
Sixties
Scoop refers to the removal of tens of thousands of Indigenous children from
their families into the Canadian child welfare system.
Kamatsiarniq
translates to “a place where Inuit are welcome” and is a child welfare program
at Tunjasuvvingat Inuit, a non-profit service provider.
Sheldon
oversees Inuit culture with families, supports Inuit families through
navigating the child welfare system and guides children’s aid societies
regarding Inuit culture and Inuit rights.
“Its
important for Inuit to have that advocacy and support,” Sheldon said,
“especially as none of us are on our traditional lands” in southern
Ontario.
Tauni
said Inuit are often swept under a pan-Indigenous approach, or assumed to be
First Nations, instead of recognized as a distinct Indigenous group.
When
Inuit are sent to Ontario from northern Canada through the child welfare
system, she said it’s important the children “remain connected to who they are
as Inuit.”
Sheldon
said she “has that fire to try and be that voice for people who don’t have
their voice or don’t know what to do,” because she knows how it feels to be a
voiceless child.
Her
family and her adoptive family are “still trying to understand the Sixties
Scoop.”
“For
my birth mother, it was very traumatic,” she said. Sheldon’s birth mother had
arranged for a traditional Inuit adoption, but instead Sheldon was “scooped”
and taken away to Ontario.
“I
was a baby when I was apprehended” and at that time, there weren’t Indigenous
people in the system who could advocate for her, Sheldon said.
After
decades apart, Sheldon reconnected with her mother and said they now have a
loving relationship. On Sheldon’s 50th birthday, she spent the day with her
mother – the first birthday with her mother since the day she was born.
“We
cried and held each other,” Sheldon said, adding she hears many stories similar
to her own through her work.
First
Nations
Dubie
is an intergenerational residential school survivor who is Haudenesounee Turtle
Clan from the territory of the Grand River.
She’s
the founder and executive director of Healing of the Seven Generations (HSG), a
nonprofit organization in Kitchener that supports Indigenous people in
Waterloo, Wellington, Guelph and surrounding areas suffering the impacts of the
residential school system.
Stewart,
who lived in Erin from 1968 until 2019, is Bay of Quinte Mohawk Turtle Clan and
the founder of Tall Tree Indigenous Peace Building Circles, a non-profit that
supports Indigenous families and children through healing circles.
The
circles go beyond conflict resolution, Stewart said, and work to “wrap around a
family” and rally to figure out what they need.
Her
work centres around safety, helping the family “address what they don’t do so
well,” and emphasizing their strengths.
She
builds relationships and trust with the families and helps them become
aware “of their identity that was stolen from them.”
“If
they are First Nations, I can say ‘here are your teachings – this is who you
are. These values are pretty important. This is what was taken from you.’
“If
they are Ojibwe, I can say ‘you are an Anishinaabekwe; an Ojibwe woman. I want
you to keep repeating that.’”
Then
she starts connecting them with “helpers,” many of whom work at HSG.
The
helpers’ support includes food security, housing, health care, education, court
support and ceremonies.
“It
takes a village,” Stewart said, “and we are building that village.”
There
is nothing like HSG in Wellington County or Guelph, so many Indigenous locals
go to Kitchener to receive this support, Stewart explained.
Funding
And
though HSG supports hundreds of people from Clifford to Kitchener, funding is
limited, Dubie noted.
“Funding
for Indigenous community organizations is always on the sparse side – an
Indigenous organization will only be funded two thirds of what a mainstream
organization is,” she said.
“We
ride on grants for the most part,” Stewart said, “but grants are not
sustainable.”
“It’s
like the Canadian government wants us to fail,” Stewart said.
“We
need resources,” Dubie said, “we need them to walk beside us, because we can’t
do it all alone. But we aren’t asking them to control us as they walk beside us
– walk beside us in friendship and understanding.”
She
compared keeping the organization afloat on such a tight budget to “surviving
above the drowning line of a flood.”
But
despite the low funds, “We are going to do everything we can to better help
those children,” Dubie said.
With
more resources, they would like to create a place like HSG in Wellington County
or Guelph, Dubie and Stewart said.
‘Canada
did this’
Supports
such as those offered at HSG are essential to combatting systemic issues such
as the over-representation of Indigenous people in foster care, shelters,
prisons and hospitals, “yet do we get the help to better our people? Absolutely
not,” Dubie said.
“We
basically top the chart at everything,” Stewart said: suicide, domestic
violence, child welfare system, criminal system, poverty.
Dubie
said it’s important to recognize these issues are results of the residential
school system and the Sixties Scoop: “Canada did this to our people.
“The
Canadian government didn’t want any more Indian ‘problem,’” Stewart said, so
that’s why they wanted to take the Indian out of the child.”
And they took away
more than just culture, Stewart said – “They disposed of everything. Family.
Teachings. Land. Inheritance.”
Dubie
said many Indigenous families struggling “don’t even know themselves why they
are dysfunctional,” but their parents, grandparents and great grandparents were
abused in residential schools and were told they could never speak about it, so
turned to drugs, alcohol, gambling and other addictions to try to escape the
pain.
“Canada
is saying between 150,000 and 200,000 people were in residential schools,”
Dubie said. “They have families, those families have families,” and the trauma
is passed on from one generation to the next.
Indigenous
children were shamed for their culture and told it was “evil devil
worship,” which made them “afraid to be who they really are” and speak their
traditional languages even after leaving school, Dubie said.
The
children also experienced a wide range of physical and sexual abuse.
“They
come out as young teens and young adults who don’t know how to be parents
because of all those things that they were taught. Those things they were
taught became parenting skills,” she said.
‘Knows
the history’
“In
order to service a family, you’ve got to have someone that understands that
culture and knows the history,” Stewart said.
“All
their lives they have been told they are a piece of shit,” she said. “We are
saying, ‘guess what? You are not a piece of shit, and you do matter. (The
Creator doesn’t) make mistakes, and Creator made you. So come on, let’s pull up
your socks, let’s go.”
Dubie
said organizations such as HSG, Tall Tree and Kamatsiarniq help families “get
back in touch with their culture and understand who they are.”
Stewart
said some children first learn they are Indigenous after connecting with an
advocate through the child welfare system.
“We
bring them back to the teachings. Help them build their self esteem. Help them
build that spirit in them. Help them live a good life,” Stewart said. “We teach
them how they can pray,” and about Indigenous stories and world views.
With
ceremonies and traditional medicines, the advocates help families “move away
from the drugs and alcohol and abuses. Because that’s not who we are as a
people,” Dubie said.
“We are not
‘heathens,’ not ‘dirty Indians,’ we have heart and spirit,” she said. “We are
people. We just want to survive – and have an awesome day.”
“Our
community has a lot of kindness,” Sheldon added. “That’s our teachings.” But
she said kindness can be a hard thing to achieve, “because we weren’t raised
with kindness,” and faced lifelong systemic abuse, racism and criticism.
“You
were beaten up as a kid when you went to mainstream school,” she said, and many
Indigenous mothers had child welfare show up in the hospital as soon as they
gave birth, “and you didn’t even do anything wrong.
“So
to walk with kindness – it takes a lot.”
Breaking
the cycle
Stewart
said it’s significant for her when she sees children she worked with grow up to
flourish as healthy and happy adults, “knowing that cycle is broken, and they
are going to be okay.”
Some
of the children grow up to be child welfare advocates themselves, she
said.
Dubie
said receiving the Merit Award was meaningful as it shows how far they have
come along “a very long road.
“The
award really recognized our endurance and our dedication to the community. Not
just our contributions to child welfare, but the tough journey that we had and
our resilience,” she said
Sheldon
said it was an honour, particularly to share it with Stewart and Dubie, though
it “felt kinda strange, as it’s not really the Inuit way to be awarded or
recognized.”
Sheldon
said she, Stewart and Dubie often “go beyond what we are asked to do … because
we know the need is out there,” and they appreciate being recognized for
that.
And
she said FCSGW “has really taken a few extra steps, compared to other
children’s aid societies, to work in Indigenous well-being.”
“We
are incredibly grateful for the opportunity to collaborate and partner with
Wendy, Donna and Tauni; working together to disrupt and change the legacy of
child welfare with Indigenous communities,” FCSGW officials state.
Sheldon
said she has hope for the future because “we are in a day now of truth and
reconciliation.
“We
can’t erase the past,” Sheldon said, “but it left a legacy that is impacting
Indigenous people.”
And
now that the truth is out in the open, “We can work together as all people,”
towards a better future.
Robin George Reporter