UPDATE
15 years already? How I changed...but has adoption perception changed?
By Trace Hentz, ADOPTEE ACTIVIST
If you had asked me in 2004 or 2014 what I had planned for myself, I would
have not said “writing” about adoption, child trafficking, Indian Adoption
Programs/Projects, the 60s Scoop, Stolen Generations and Cultural Genocide
research.
As an adoptee, I'd attended the first Wiping the Tears ceremony in Wisconsin
and met the organizers
Sandy White Hawk (an adoptee) and
elder Chris Leith. Then my world changed.
I'd learn more hidden history.
How adoption affected me: I'd never told my story of opening my adoption while
I lived it. A few friends knew details but not all of it. I got the idea for a
book when I wrote an article in 2005 about stolen generations of North American
Indian children placed for adoption with non-Indian parents. That article,
"Generation after Generation, We are Coming Home" was published in Talking
Stick magazine in New York City and then in News from Indian Country
in Wisconsin. It took me down a path I never expected.
I'd find new information, new history, meet new adoptees, and grow more
concerned.*
It's true many bloggers hoped we made a strong and
lasting impression,
to impact and end the propaganda since the early 2000s. I am not sure we can
actually gauge or measure how world views of adoption have changed. (If books
on Amazon are an indication, memoirs by
adoptees are now climbing the
ranks over all the propaganda books about how to buy/adopt a baby.)
It's also true some blogger friends stopped blogging on adoption out of pure
exhaustion!
SUPPLY AND DEMAND
If the statistics on adoption are any indication,
the number of babies adopted by Americans are
dropping each and every
year. There is definitely a BIG
demand for infants (primarily because of infertility) but there remains a short
supply of newborns/babies to
adopt. (I do think the adoption traffickers are constantly
reinventing new ways to grab a fresh supply of infants.
What
new poor countries or communities they will invade as this demand
increases?! Read
THIS) On this website we published stories (
Adoption Reality: Adoptee returned to Russia #NAAM
(and)
Adoption Reality: Guatemala #NAAM) and (
Trafficking) on many countries who became the suppliers and traffickers of newborns and children. Child exploitation, labor bondage, organ trafficking and illegal
adoption is also an ongoing problem that award winning Moroccan medical
doctor in pediatrics and
UN expert Dr. Najat Maalla M’jid says is not decreasing.
Indian
Country has lived through this over a century with forced assimilation, child snatching and
disappearing children. The government's motive: take more LAND (or what is on or under the land). Targeting children, the future of Indian Country, was obvious.
White people believe they deserve the right to adopt without considering the best needs of the Native child who is sovereign and future of their tribal nation.
On January 16, 2019, 325 tribal nations, 57 Native
organizations, 21 states, 31 child welfare organizations, Indian and
constitutional law scholars, and seven members of Congress joined the
United States and four intervenor tribes in filing
briefs to urge the United States Court of Appeals for the Fifth Circuit to uphold the Indian Child Welfare Act (ICWA), the long-standing federal law protecting the well-being of Native children by upholding family integrity and stability.
THEY WILL STOP THE MADNESS - They know the HISTORY!
The Goldwater Institute, a libertarian think tank, litigation
organization and veteran opponent of ICWA, joined the Brackeen lawsuit in 2018 to challenge the federal law ICWA. (Use the search
bar on this website and use keyword: Goldwater.)
Brackeen v. Bernhardt is
a lawsuit brought by
Texas, Indiana, Louisiana, and individual plaintiffs, who allege ICWA—a
federal statute that has been in effect for more than 40 years and has
helped thousands of Native children maintain ties to their families and
their tribes—is unconstitutional.
FEDERAL LAW:
ICWA only applies to
citizens of federally recognized tribes. Indeed, the statute has no
application unless an “Indian child” is at issue, and “Indian child” is
defined as “Any unmarried person under the age of 18 and is either (a) a
member of an Indian tribe or (b) is eligible for membership in an
Indian tribe and is the biological child of a member of an Indian
tribe.“ The act is directly and inextricably linked to citizenship in a
sovereign nation.
*A
couple night ago I wrote several pages of notes of what I would say to
the Brackeens about this Navajo child they wish to adopt and how their
legal actions seek to undermine his sovereignty and the future of ICWA. (I will publish these thoughts soon.)
PROBLEMS ADOPTING
What I’d hoped would change is the overall perception
of closed adoptions, how it’s not as great for adoptees as most people were made to believe. PAPS (potential adoptive parents) (the Saviors and Do-Gooders) have the common "saving the child mentality" which the billion dollar adoption industry
banks on... The adoption industry still prefers newborns, hoping the younger the child is, a baby will bond better with the strangers who adopt them.
(Again, that is a proven fallacy. No matter the age, adoptees will have issues: such as severe narcissist injury
or post-traumatic stress disorder. There is new science called birth psychology
so I read studies about adoptees in treatment for identity issues, reactive
attachment disorder (RAD), depression and suicidal thoughts.)
The idea of an OPEN ADOPTION was a strong indication that times and opinions were changing but already…they are failing too. Some children have been re-homed or un-adopted in what they call Failed Adoption.
This is a quote I
saved about open adoption:
…ignored by the adoption agencies is the reality of “open
adoption.” Only 22 of fifty states in America recognize open adoption
agreements, but failure of the adoptive parents to comply with the
agreement is not legally enforceable by the surrendering mother.
As countries such as Guatemala and China close their international adoption programs or implement strict new rules, the pool of adoptable babies has shrunk dramatically in recent years, leading to a rise in more challenging types of adoption of older or disabled children that are more likely to end in dissolution.
HOW ADOPTION REALLY WORKS
A quote by adoptee-author-blogger Elle Cuardaigh:
And
adoption certainly is “worked.” When supply of newborns decreased in the
1970s, the adoption industry had to put a new spin on relinquishment
to stay in business. Since women could not be so easily shamed by
single motherhood, they changed tactics. Potential suppliers (pregnant
women) are now encouraged to “make an adoption plan.” She reads the
“Dear Birthmother” letters and interviews hopeful adoptive parents. She
is provided with medical care and possibly even housing. She is
promised this is her choice, and that she can have ongoing contact with
her child in an open adoption. It would seem she has all the power, but
she is being systematically conditioned to accept her role, her place.
She doesn’t want to hurt the baby’s “real parents,” feels indebted to
them, emotionally invested. She is soon convinced they are better than
she is. She becomes “their birthmother.” It almost guarantees
relinquishment.
Visit:
http://ellecuardaigh.com
Adoption is still in the headlines but not nearly as often...
This website AMERICAN INDIAN ADOPTEES has reached
over
900,000 hits/reads! If that is any indication, history is
changing. We thank you readers. It's worked!
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(How I Changed, Part 8 was the final installment in 2014)